The works of Author C.L. Harmon
Each new day is a gift. Our quest is to figure out how to open it. Once we do, we learn that the significance of the gift is exactly what we need today. When our moods and current situations put us in a mindset that our day is a burden, we minimize the value of the gift before we even know its contents. And that is an entire day lost to what will be instead of what could be.
C.L. Harmon
Leave a CommentWanting change in our lives is about effort. It’s about working and not wishing. It’s true that things in life change as a result of universal momentum, but without effort we give that change no direction. We are given the distinction of navigating our lives through free will. We are also victims of that momentum when we opt to not provide guidance. Work towards the change you want and the universe will step aside as you lead the way.
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Leave a CommentPRINCIPLES OF HAPPINESS
C.L. Harmon
BE THANKFIL IN ALL THINGS: Make a habit of thanking God all the time and for all things. Think of it like this. I thank God when I take a shower because not everyone gets access to showers. I than Him when the AC in my car works because some people don’t have AC. I thank Him because I don’t have a headache and then thank Him it’s not worse if I do have a headache. The point is that we are always better off than someone else and we should always be grateful for this.
LAUGH ONCE A DAY: This is not always easy to do. Believe me I know! But laughter is one of God’s way of healing us without medications. Scientific Facts: Laughter enhances your intake of oxygen-rich air, stimulates your heart, lungs and muscles, and increases the endorphins that are released by your brain. Force yourself to watch something on TV that is funny or spend time with people who makes you laugh and smile. The benefits will always outweigh the effort.
SET GOALS: Every day set a small goal and let nothing stop you from achieving the goal. It can be anything but make it something new every day. Wash the car, run an errand, clean out the junk drawer, etc. The point is to do something constructive that takes minimal time because completing something builds confidence and takes our minds off the negativity in our lives. We should also set large goals and spend a few minutes every day working on those goal. We will be amazed at how much progress is made in a short time. And that sense of accomplishment gives us a sense of pride which equates to a positive mindset.
DO SOMETHING FOR OTHERS AND FOR YOURSELF EVERYDAY: Perform at least one kindness for someone else every day without any expectation of receiving anything in return. It does not matter if it’s a friend, family member or stranger, just do a good deed. First off, helping others makes us happy by design. Think of it as a bonus God gives us to do what we should do anyway. And as a further bonus, God rewards us further by blessing us for doing what He expects of us. As the Bible reads. “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” Medical evidence shows that helping others can also benefit our own mental health and wellbeing. For example, it can reduce stress as well as improve mood, self-esteem and happiness. And also reward yourself for doing what is right. Treat yourself everyday with an enjoyment. It reminds us that there is goodness in the world and that God created so much for us to enjoy. Do things often that makes you happy and your entire being will become addicted to that happiness.
LET GO OF NEGATIVITY: I realize this is easier said than done. But letting go of what makes you angry, sad or frustrated removes an enemy from your life. But never expect to do it all at once. We typically do not become negative over once incident, but by a series of continued exposure. Ask yourself every day if the misery you feel is worth the happiness it costs you to hold on to it. I promise you it’s not. Then slowly let it go replacing it with something positive, something worthy of your energy. In time, what you feel will turn to indifference…and that opens up space for happiness. Think of it like this; God lets you choose negativity or happiness. But He is telling us that negativity is blind and blocks our view to see blessings and so we think God is not helping you when, in actuality, we are simply not listening and as such, not seeing all He is doing for us.
Leave a CommentAs we age, our objective should not only be to grow up and accept growing older, but to grow forward. In doing so, we will learn not to laugh at someone but with someone. To cry with someone and not for someone. To follow through and not fall through. And to lose ourselves so we can be found by others who are lost. Growing forward means never looking back with the regret of not growing up.
C.L. Harmon
Leave a CommentI don’t so much believe bad things happen for a reason as I believe they happen because of our bad choices to not use reason.
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Leave a CommentOur connections to others are living legacies which affect us daily. Our interactions are seeds planted in their souls. As long as we live, we are sowing in and reaping from the lives of others. Once we understand this, we realize that most of what we grow comes from the fields of others.
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Leave a CommentWhen our influences on the outside become stronger than our faith on the inside, we have stepped into dangerous territory. Listening to others does often feed our growth. But believing in ourselves is the voice of the divine telling us we can be more than anyone on the outside can even fathom.
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Leave a CommentThe idea that others’ words and opinions should affect our feelings is not a written law in stone. It is simply choices as to how we will allow them to make us feel. What is often lost is that we have all the power. By simply not allowing others to affect us in a way we don’t like is an aspect of free will. By refusing to be affected, we become empowered by our choice to be free of it.
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Leave a CommentThe reason we are often at a standstill in life is because there is something we are not seeing and we cannot move forward until it is revealed to us. Although the direction we move forward is a choice, the timing for it is divine. So do not fret when you feel idle, but gather hope that when the timing is right, you were given enough time to choose the best direction .
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Leave a CommentThe key to life is knowing how to live it. Do not waste your youth on ideals that you are not ready yet to understand. Learn to accept that what is out of your control is for your own good. Fail with grace because failing without it makes you appear weak. Love hard and let go peacefully. Laugh when it hurts and smile when you lose. And in the end, feel blessed to have had the greatest experience that you would never want to do again.
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