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I don’t think life was ever meant to be fair. There is too much at stake, too many involved. Everyone has a role and a responsibility and they are all intertwined. God, the devil, demons, angels and Jesus are at the center of our creation. It was something that began before time and something with no end. Humans are just a part of it that came in between. I believe that what happens in life is really just a small part of something so much larger than we can comprehend. And yet this small part is the nucleus and therefore also more important than we can comprehend.

I think we struggle through life because it is necessary to understand what only struggle can teach. I believe God loves us so much that He wants us to see who we can become after the struggles and because of them. He wants us to experience the power that is change, the reward that is faith. I think the devil hates us more more than we fathom and he wants us to suffer because he enjoys our pain and does not have the strength to stop himself even though he knows God uses struggles to better us who he loathes. And he hates himself because of it, which makes him detest us even more. It seems all so pointless until we understand that it’s not about winning or losing. It never has been. The devil loses when when Heaven gains and God loses when Hell gains. They both knew from the beginning neither was going take all.

What is at play is love. And what is love, really? It is something that cannot be defined or explained. It is multiple actions that express themselves in anger, compassion, kindness, discipline, charity, faith and multiple other actions. And sometimes we get it wrong. We discipline too much. We give more than we can afford emotionally and financially. We are too compassionate when we should be stern. We act out in anger towards others because we care, but without following up with peace and reason. And we love in faith, but fail in it when it doesn’t provide as we would like. We struggle because life can’t be anything else but difficult. We fail because we need to fail. We struggle because everyone else involved either needs us to or wants us to. God wants us to grow. The angels want to serve their Father. The devil wants us to suffer. The demons want to serve their master.  And Jesus needs us to struggle because if we are not lost in the dark, we will never seek the light. And it is love and its opposite that is at the center, the nucleus that we are. Because we love we have access to everything. We can acknowledge and speak with God. We can choose to sacrifice, live in faith, forgive and show mercy. We can also sin, hate and serve the god of our choice. And between those is life, the middle somewhere between Heaven and hell. And that is where struggle will either save or destroy us. And that outcome is determined by who and what we love during the struggle.

C.L. Harmon

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Each despair you allow to defeat you becomes a weakness that is part of you. But, the strengths you allow to overcome any weakness becomes all of you.

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It’s easy to buy a lie because the truth is a much harder sell. It’s easier to make another mistake than to make amends. It’s more fun to dance with the devil than kneel before the Lord. It’s safer to fall than rise and it’s acceptable to be accused but not vindicated. This is why we live on a bedrock of weakness. Solid ground is hard and uncompromising. This is why we choose it to build lasting structures. If your world is falling apart, perhaps it’s time to find a better place to stand.

C.L. Harmon

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Most people don’t end up with what they want, but with only that they achieve. What we want most is never at the beginning of our efforts, but always at the end of perseverance. Achievement is what is between our initial belief in reaching that which we desire and the ending we chose in that belief before we reached perseverance.
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There’s nothing more endearing than watching another choose humility. There’s nothing more gracious than being happy for someone who wins. There’s nothing more inspiring than experiencing someone do what is right. There is nothing more valuable than making a sacrifice when there in no personal gain. There is nothing more rewarding than teaching someone they matter. There is nothing more encouraging than believing in someone when no one else does. Sometimes, nothing more is everything. There is always something in every action. Let those actions be nothing less than the most you can offer.
C.L. Harmon

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There are those who judge your current position in life from their present elevated position in life. Beware of those few with that perspective. They choose not to see your past, your successes, your risks or your sacrifices. They only see their own. And that makes them blind to your capabilities.
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Time passes and we can’t save it. Love is created, but it can’t perish. Strength is built, but it will weaken. Experiences will happen and they cannot be altered. Knowledge is gained, but it can be lost. And of all the undeniable truths and harsh realities which cannot be changed, there will always be the one constant that we have the capability to change. We are the exception to the natural rules. There will never come a time we cannot change who we have been into who we wish to become.
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It is true we can acknowledge our own worth. But what value is that when we only spend it on ourselves? To value what others do is to provide them with a worth beyond one’s self. And in that is our value to others.

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I have been really good at only two things in my life, writing and being a helper. The first came natural to me. The second, well I am not exactly sure how I became so good at. Perhaps it came naturally too. Or maybe it was something else. Possibly practice? 

This is not to say that I haven’t learned how to do things and become proficient, maybe even good at a few. But taking the lead, taking control when things were broken was not something that came naturally. But I could certainly help those who did.

In most situations where there were two or more engaged in an activity, I found myself gravitating to that role of helper while someone else would gravitate towards taking control of the situation. I could get the tools they needed, could even guess with incredible accuracy what tool or part the others needed before they asked for it. I would have it in waiting before they even moved to their next thought of needing it.

Once I became familiar with a situation, I could read the room as it were. I could prepare for the next move and would usually be right. But still, I was just the helper. I wasn’t the one who actually fixed the problem. I was just someone who was there when it was fixed, cleaned up after, and lent a hand during the process.

For years that bothered me. I could find consolation in the successes of the other talent though as it progressed and brought me attention and praise from others. But it was not a replacement for how the other made me feel. I was still just a helper in many of the other situations that arose in my life. The person I was helping was always the one with the talent, the problem-solving skills that got things done as far as I was concerned.

But as I got older, I began to realize that a leader without a helper is just someone who is alone. They are someone who had to figure out how to get the right tool when their hands were otherwise engaged. They were alone without anyone to bounce ideas off of as they moved through their process of figuring out their next move. They were alone in their triumph of fixing the problem. They were alone in their struggle when the situation felt hopeless before the next revelation came. They were simply alone.

They needed me in ways I had never considered. They needed someone who might not have the natural ability, but had an encouraging word when the situation became difficult. They needed someone to do the multiple little things that were less important but necessary. They needed someone to pick up the parts so they could concentrate on the problem and someone to pick up the tools when the work area became too cluttered to find what they needed. They needed someone to high-five in the eureka moments. They needed to be helped.

Age also brought another bit of wisdom my way. It allowed me to see that in my other natural ability, I had been the problem-solver. I had been the one with the knowledge to lead others. Through my published works and the skill set I had acquired to deliver my words in just the right way, I was leading others. It further showed me that in that capacity I had been a helper too. I had just considered it a leadership role. In reality, we are all helpers in one capacity or another and at one time or another. Sometimes we are picking up tools and sweeping the floor so the leader in that role will have room to work. And other times, we are the helper who takes the lead role helping help others in need of our talents and gifts.

But in the end, what matters most is that we are there to help. What we think about ourselves in the moment when others are in the lead role is just a thought. What we contribute in those moments, however, is exactly what someone else needs most in that moment. And that, well that is the most natural talent of all.

C.L. Harmon

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Finding our way seems to imply we may be lost. When, in fact, it usually means just finding other ways. If we are not seeking new paths, then we truly will become lost. We are always on some path, but new ones exist because they are meant to take us to new understandings. Seeking anything new is not an indication we are off course, but proof we are enlightened enough to know that it often takes many paths and directions to reach the destinations where we belong.

C.L. Harmon

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