What you want must be more important than what you fear. Fulfillment only comes out of risk. And yes, we often lose and suffer, but without that suffering we would not truly understand the value of fulfillment when we experience it. What you want is out there and it will find you, but it will not force itself. You will either accept it on faith or deny it out of fear. At the end of your life, which one would you have wished you had chosen?